Finding Quiet Time With God As a New Mom
Once the babies come along, it can be a struggle to find “quiet time” with God. Keeping up with kids takes a lot of time and energy – and then there’s also that guy you married. He also feels he deserves a bit of your time. How is a Christian mom supposed to find time for everyone? What ends up happening is that the loudest voice gets the most attention. God sometimes speaks in a “still small voice” and it’s easy to ignore what He is saying in favor of the screaming toddler.
Obviously, God never intended this. His blessing of children was not meant to hinder your daily walk with Him. It may take more work, but your spiritual daily refreshment can still exist! Take heart, God wants you to thrive during this season of life.
Jesus invites you to choose “the one thing [that] is needful” (Luke 10:42).
How Can I Make Quiet Time Happen?
It can’t. Unless you CHOOSE to set aside time. Before you think, “Well I just don’t have the time to…”
- Did you watch the morning news and get a weather update? You had time and you chose.
- Did you update your Facebook status today and send a picture to Grandma? You had time and you chose.
- Did you meet up with gal pals to chat over lunch during a play date with their kids? You had time and you chose.
- Did you stop on the way home from groceries to window shop at that new clothing store? You had time and you chose.
- Did you stay up late with Hubby after the kids were finally asleep in order to finish your Netflix marathon? You had time and you chose.
I can hear some of you now… “Well, I never! Hmmph! Who does she think she is, Mrs. Spiritual?!”
Ladies, please. I only mentioned these things because I ALSO STRUGGLE with them. They aren’t bad things at all. But they cannot come before your time with the Creator of the universe.
Fighting for Your Life
Having a quiet time during this stage of your life means you’ll probably have to fight for it. Count the cost and decide whether or not a walk with the Lord is worth it to you. Is your spiritual life worth whatever sacrifice? To what lengths will you go to get alone with your Master?
This is not an endorsement to be selfish and stingy with our quiet time. This isn’t the “me time” the world propagates that you need as a mom. The difference is that how you spend time with God determines how you can best serve your family. Making quiet time exist affects your effectiveness in the home. It’s no longer an option. You have to be filled by God in order to give of yourself to others.
What does that mean exactly? What am I fighting against? Satan wants you to think that your children are the enemies. “Those little rascals are stealing my freedom!” On the contrary, those little rascals need a Spirit-filled momma to guide them in truth!
“For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places…And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.” (Ephesians 6:12, 17)
Set Your Priorities
A beautiful pastor’s wife and homeschooling mother of nine said to me once, “I’ve determined never to read other books or anything else before I read the Word of God for the day.” Now that shows her priority is placed on the superiority of God’s Word. My Sunday school teacher in 10th grade always said, “You ought to spend just as much or more time in the Word as you do getting ready in the morning. It’s vain to spend more time prettying the outside and neglecting the beautification of the heart.”
I don’t claim to have mastered either of those goals. But their words do ring in my head when I place other things above my devotional time. I’m finding that it’s easiest for me to do my quiet time when I sit down for breakfast. We must eat every day, so I must also feed my soul. I try to eat before my son wakes up and needs me. If the morning is especially crazy, I make sure to write my quiet time on my to do list. That way I stare at it all day until I find time to cross it off the list. I also leave my Bible open on the table or counter so I’m reminded every time I pass through the room. It’s the little things, ladies, that help us stick to our commitment to meet with the Lord.
Utilize Down Time
The most glorious part of a mom’s day could easily be naptime! If they’re sleeping, your freedom just went up a notch. You’ve got a solid hour or two to do anything you want. The hardest thing is resisting the temptation to sleep yourself. Many times I’ve found that when I’m exhausted, I need the Lord more than I need a nap. I’m more blessed and refreshed than if I tried to pillow my head for a few fleeting moments. Plus, when you take the time to grow spiritually, you are building eternal rewards.
Downtime might mean asking Grandma to babysit during lunch time (like she’d resist). Downtime could be having them play quietly next to you as you read out loud from the Bible. It’s important for your kids to actually see you spending time with God. Whether they are present or not, you can have fellowship with Him. I’ve known of pastor’s wives who’ve pulled a sleepy child into bed with them and read them the Bible until they fall back asleep. Both benefit from that strategy!
The point is to use what you have. God gave you your day and He knows your schedule. He isn’t requiring some impossible task from you. He just wants to see you get creative in how you make it work. Maybe God is testing you to see just how committed you are to meeting with Him. Before typing this article, I just did my own devotions – with a sleeping boy strewn across my lap. And all I wanted to do was go to sleep with him. I’m in the same boat here. I’m writing to myself.
Never Stop Pursuing
God isn’t up in heaven with a checklist every time you fail to have your quiet time. The Christian life isn’t about whether you have everything together or not. God is so full of grace and His Word is so full of forgiveness. When you do struggle, the goal is to just keep going.
Never stop pursuing that quiet time with God. Even if you have tried all day up until time to hit the hay, don’t give up. God never sleeps, so He’ll stay up with you in order for you two to meet. Never say, “Well, I missed my 7:00 AM time with God, I guess it’s just not going to happen today.” Do whatever you have to in order to sit at His feet. Drink straight espresso, sit at a desk and not in bed, turn on bright lights. anything! Just don’t abandon that precious time together with the Lord.
Don’t Box in a Time Frame
We’ve all heard the adage, “We tend to put God in a box.” However, we also tend to put our quiet time with God in a box. I know personally that for years I had it in my head. I thought if I forgot to read my Bible in the morning, the rest of the day was null and void. It doesn’t work that way.
God can, and does, speak at any time of day. Don’t limit when He can meet with you. In fact, live in such a way that you’re always close to the throne. This is accomplished through a lively prayer life and meditation (memorization) of Scripture. The opportunities are endless. Write Scripture on your mirror. Stick it on the fridge door. Hang it from the dashboard of the car. Wherever you are the most, surround yourself with Scripture! That way, it’s an all day event.
About the Author
Hannah and her husband Cameron are currently on deputation, raising support so they can begin full-time missionary work in Mongolia. She juggles the demands of traveling with those of a toddler and keeps a sweet spirit through it all. Hannah has authored two books in addition to her writing for the Submissive Spirit. She also blesses us with her beautiful voice.